Clergy-perpetrated sexual abuse (CPSA) is uniquely harmful because it fuses interpersonal violation with the betrayal of sacred authority and institutional trust. This paper examines the case of Father Norbert J. Maday, a Chicago Archdiocese priest convicted of sexually abusing minors, as a lens to explore perpetrator psychology, betrayal trauma theory, and the neuropsychological and psychological sequelae of abuse. The analysis emphasizes the underexamined population of “witness-survivors”: children who resisted inappropriate advances, observed abusive behaviors, or voiced concerns, but were dismissed or punished by family and parish staff. Maday’s behavioral profile demonstrates grooming, cognitive distortions, narcissistic entitlement, antisocial tendencies, and moral disengagement, all reinforced by institutional silence. Survivors—including witnesses—show classic betrayal trauma responses, including HPA axis dysregulation, amygdala hyperactivation, hippocampal alterations, and prefrontal suppression.
Cuffing Season, Toxic Relationships, and the Psychological Necessity of No Contact | Melanie Boling, Boling Expeditionary Research
Cuffing Season, Toxic Relationships, and the Psychological Necessity of No Contact
Abstract
“Cuffing season”—the cultural phenomenon where individuals seek temporary relationships during colder months—has been popularly discussed as harmless or even romantic. However, research in psychology and neuroscience suggests that the behavioral dynamics underpinning this pattern can foster attachment to toxic partners, increase vulnerability to manipulation, and impair long-term mental health. This paper examines the neurological and psychological risks of cuffing season, the mechanisms toxic individuals use to re-enter victims’ lives, and the benefits of strict no-contact boundaries for long-term well-being.
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Introduction
The cultural script of cuffing season encourages short-term attachments during times of loneliness, seasonal affective vulnerability, and reduced social activity. While often framed humorously, this cycle can reinforce maladaptive attachment dynamics, especially for individuals with histories of trauma, codependency, or relationships with Cluster B personality disordered partners. Toxic individuals often exploit seasonal loneliness, monitoring or “watching” former partners’ lives as an entry point to re-establish contact. This pattern of cyclical re-engagement has measurable impacts on stress physiology, cognition, and emotional regulation.
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Seasonal Vulnerability and Neurobiology
Winter months are associated with increased prevalence of depressive symptoms, loneliness, and Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). Reduced sunlight leads to dysregulation of serotonin and dopamine, neurotransmitters critical to mood and reward systems (Rosenthal et al., 2008). During this neurochemical imbalance, individuals are more prone to seeking external sources of comfort and validation.
Toxic partners—especially those exhibiting narcissistic or borderline traits—capitalize on this neurobiological vulnerability. Research indicates that intermittent reinforcement from toxic relationships activates the mesolimbic dopamine pathway, mirroring patterns observed in addiction (Fisher et al., 2016). This explains why victims may feel “drawn back” despite past harm.
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Manipulation Through Monitoring and Re-Entry
A hallmark of toxic individuals is surveillance-like behavior following relationship dissolution. They may covertly monitor social media, mutual connections, or professional updates. This “watching” behavior is not neutral—it is a preparatory phase for manipulation. By collecting information, they identify emotional openings to reinsert themselves.
Psychologically, this aligns with hoovering tactics—attempts to “suck” the victim back into the toxic dynamic. Hoovering can include nostalgic messages, fabricated crises, or feigned self-improvement. Such behaviors exploit the brain’s mirror neuron systems (Rizzolatti & Sinigaglia, 2010), triggering empathy responses in the victim that bypass rational evaluation.
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Mental Health Consequences of Re-Engagement
Engaging with toxic ex-partners during cuffing season creates profound mental health risks:
1. Stress Response Dysregulation: Chronic exposure to relational manipulation elevates cortisol levels, impairing hippocampal function and memory (McEwen, 2017).
2. Attachment Trauma Re-Activation: Returning to harmful dynamics can re-trigger childhood attachment wounds, reinforcing maladaptive schemas of abandonment and rejection.
3. Cognitive Dissonance: Victims often oscillate between awareness of abuse and longing for connection, leading to rumination, intrusive thoughts, and decision paralysis.
4. Neuroplastic Entrenchment: Repeated cycles of reconciliation strengthen maladaptive neural pathways, making escape progressively more difficult.
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No Contact as Neurological and Psychological Intervention
Research supports no contact as the most effective boundary for recovery from toxic relationships. No contact interrupts cycles of intermittent reinforcement, allowing dopaminergic systems to recalibrate. It also prevents re-traumatization through manipulation.
• Neurobiological Reset: Abstinence from toxic cues allows the amygdala and prefrontal cortex to re-establish balance, improving emotional regulation.
• Cognitive Liberation: Removing external surveillance reduces hypervigilance and frees cognitive resources for self-growth.
• Identity Reconstruction: Without toxic feedback loops, survivors can realign with authentic values and rebuild self-concept.
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Conclusion
Cuffing season should not be trivialized as a benign cultural trend. For survivors of toxic relationships, it can serve as a high-risk period for re-engagement, manipulation, and psychological harm. Understanding the neurobiological underpinnings of seasonal vulnerability and the manipulative strategies of toxic individuals underscores the importance of firm no-contact boundaries. Ultimately, prioritizing self-protection during these months is an act of psychological resilience and a safeguard for long-term mental health.
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The Neuropsychology of Boundary Violation | Melanie Boling, Boling Expeditionary Research
The Neuropsychology of Boundary Violation: Personality Pathology, Cognitive Deficits, and the Dangers to Victims
Abstract
The ability to recognize and respect interpersonal boundaries is a cornerstone of healthy human interaction. Individuals who fail to respond to refusal cues such as no or stop represent a profound risk to others’ psychological safety and physical autonomy. This paper examines the psychological and neuroscientific underpinnings of this phenomenon, classifying such individuals across personality pathology, impulse-control deficits, learned boundary violation, and predatory psychopathy. The paper emphasizes the dangers posed to victims, highlighting trauma pathways, neurobiological consequences, and the long-term psychological toll.
Introduction
Boundaries serve as protective mechanisms for selfhood, signaling the limits of acceptable interaction (Zur, 2007). When another person disregards these signals, the interaction shifts from consensual to coercive, threatening the autonomy and safety of the victim. Failure to recognize or respect no or stop is not simply a social faux pas but an indicator of serious psychopathology, cognitive dysfunction, or predatory intent. For victims, such behavior induces high-risk trauma responses and long-lasting neurobiological dysregulation.
1. Personality Disorder Spectrum
Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)
Individuals with NPD display grandiosity, entitlement, and lack of empathy (American Psychiatric Association [APA], 2013). Neuroscientific studies show altered fronto-limbic connectivity, suggesting impaired emotional empathy and heightened self-referential processing (Mier et al., 2013). When confronted with refusal, narcissistic individuals may interpret no as narcissistic injury, escalating aggression to reassert control (Krizan & Johar, 2015).
Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD)
ASPD is characterized by disregard for the rights of others and pervasive violation of social norms (APA, 2013). Functional MRI studies demonstrate reduced amygdala reactivity and impaired ventromedial prefrontal cortex function, consistent with deficient fear conditioning and moral reasoning (Glenn & Raine, 2014). For these individuals, no lacks salience as a moral boundary and is treated instead as an obstacle to be removed.
Borderline and Histrionic Traits
While often less predatory, individuals with borderline or histrionic features may override boundaries during affective dysregulation or dramatic displays (Linehan, 1993). Hypersexuality and emotional manipulation are used to prevent abandonment or secure attention, but the effect on victims can still be coercive and destabilizing.
2. Impulse-Control and Cognitive Deficits
Impulse Dysregulation
Deficits in prefrontal cortex functioning contribute to poor inhibitory control and difficulty respecting social rules (Aron, Robbins, & Poldrack, 2014). While not inherently malicious, these deficits increase the likelihood of boundary-crossing behavior, particularly under stress or intoxication.
Social Cognition Deficits
Certain conditions, such as Autism Spectrum Disorder, may impair recognition of subtle social cues. However, unlike Cluster B pathology, individuals with ASD typically cease behavior once explicit refusal is understood (American Psychiatric Association, 2013). The distinction lies in willingness to learn and respect boundaries, versus intentional disregard.
3. Learned and Conditioned Boundary Violators
In environments characterized by authoritarianism, militarism, or systemic abuse, individuals may internalize the normalization of boundary violation (Bandura, 1999). Here, no is interpreted as negotiable or weak. Repeated reinforcement of dominance through aggression conditions behavior that perpetuates cycles of abuse.
4. Predatory Psychopathy
Perhaps the most dangerous group, psychopathic individuals understand boundaries cognitively but disregard them strategically (Hare, 2003). Functional imaging reveals hypoactivity in paralimbic structures, including the amygdala and orbitofrontal cortex, resulting in blunted affect and heightened instrumental aggression (Kiehl, 2006). For these individuals, ignoring no is a tool for manipulation, exploitation, or sadistic gratification.
5. Impact on Victims
Neurobiological Trauma Pathways
Victims exposed to repeated boundary violations experience hyperactivation of the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal (HPA) axis, leading to chronic cortisol dysregulation and hippocampal atrophy (McEwen, 2007). Such neurobiological changes are implicated in PTSD, complex trauma, and impaired emotional regulation (Yehuda et al., 2015).
Psychological Consequences
Victims often develop learned helplessness (Seligman, 1975), dissociation, and distorted self-concept. Repeated violations erode the victim’s ability to trust their perceptions, especially when accompanied by gaslighting or coercive control (Stark, 2007).
Long-Term Risk
Exposure to predatory individuals significantly increases risks of depression, substance misuse, suicidal ideation, and revictimization (Courtois & Ford, 2013). For victims, the danger is not confined to the boundary violation itself but extends into lasting disruptions of neural, psychological, and social functioning.
Conclusion
The inability—or refusal—to understand no or stop is rarely benign. Whether arising from Cluster B psychopathology, impulse-control deficits, conditioned dominance, or psychopathy, such behavior places victims at extraordinary risk of trauma and long-term harm. Psychologically and neurologically, boundary violations are assaults on autonomy that restructure the brain’s stress and memory systems, leaving victims vulnerable long after the event. From a public health perspective, these individuals represent a critical danger, and protecting victims requires both recognition of perpetrator profiles and systemic interventions to prevent abuse.
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The Effects of Women Enablers and the Perpetuation of Cluster B Personality Disorder Abuse | Melanie Boling, Boling Expeditionary Research
Drawing from neuroscience, psychology, and psychopathology, we explore how the dysregulated brain circuits of Cluster B individuals (including hyperactivation of the amygdala, hypoactivity in the prefrontal cortex, and disruptions in the mirror neuron system) interact with the psychological vulnerabilities of enablers. Neurobiological stress responses in victims, including chronic dysregulation of the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal (HPA) axis and maladaptive fear conditioning, are analyzed as mechanisms by which enablers inadvertently reinforce maladaptive behaviors.
We also consider the dynamics of institutional betrayal, particularly in law enforcement and organizational settings, where women in enabling roles may normalize, minimize, or dismiss abuse. This interdisciplinary synthesis emphasizes the need for a paradigm shift in both clinical and societal responses to Cluster B-related abuse, recognizing enablers as critical actors in maintaining cycles of harm.
The Effects of Bonnie and Clyde Syndrome on Brain and Behavior | Melanie Boling, Boling Expeditionary Research
Hybristophilia sits at the intersection of sexual arousal, emotional attachment, and criminal psychology. Neurobiologically, it implicates core reward circuits (ventral striatum, dopamine systems) together with fear and stress pathways (amygdala, adrenaline, oxytocin) in a unique way. Although direct empirical studies on hybristophiles are lacking, existing neuroscience suggests their brains might react to criminal stimuli as if to a preferred sexual image . Behaviorally, hybristophiles often exhibit traits (impulsivity, thrill-seeking, dependency) that align with both paraphilias and trauma-related disorders. The co-occurrence of borderline or antisocial personality features, as seen in case reports, may both drive and result from these relationships.